Use Vulnerability to Grow

vulnerability “Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity. It is the source of hope, empathy, accountability, and authenticity. If we want greater clarity in our purpose or deeper and more meaningful spiritual lives, vulnerability is the path.” ~ Brene Brown


Vulnerability is often so scary that we do our best to avoid it. Keeping things status quo, not voicing our opinion or feelings and “playing it safe” are ways that fear is masked as protection, causing us to put up walls to avoid the feelings of being vulnerable. Allowing yourself to be vulnerable opens you up to growth.

Think about a time you allowed yourself to be vulnerable. Maybe it was falling in love, going after a job or career that you didn’t feel you were qualified for, doing something others said you couldn’t or stating a viewpoint or feelings that were different than others. What was the outcome? Perhaps you were hurt, ridiculed or things didn’t turn out the way you hoped, but did you grow? Maybe you were supported and offered guidance, love, empathy or opportunity. When we face our fears and go after what we want, we invite progress into our lives.

Let’s take a look at vulnerability in perspective to being authentic. We often hide parts of us, good and bad, because we’re afraid of what people might think, how they may judge us or a million other reasons (excuses). We pretend to be strong when in fact we need support, we smile when we want to cry, we go with the flow when what we truly desire is to take a different path or we pretend to be something/someone different than we are simply because we do not accept ourselves for who we are or feel that we are inadequate in some way.

The reality is that you are an amazing and wonderful individual. If we were all alike and followed the same path in life the world would be a boring place and we would see very little advancement. Allow yourself to be who you are and go after what YOU want in life. Invite a little vulnerability into your world and watch how your life changes.

VulnerabilitySurround yourself with like-minded people. You’ve heard me say this before and you’ll hear me say it again. Remember that you’re the sum of the five people you hang around with the most. So take a good look at who you’re spending your time with or following. Do they have the same values, lifestyle, mindset, etc that you want to attract into your life? Be with people who are headed the same direction you want to go, have already achieved what you want or will support you in achieving your dreams and desire.

Be true to who you are. When you are your true authentic self you allow more light and love to enter, you spend less time trying to hide behind masks and pleasing others and you’ll empower yourself to be all that you are. You will have more courage and confidence to stand on your own and create the life you dream of, the life that serves you and that you deserve.

Accept yourself. You are perfectly imperfect just the way you are. Wanting something different that others have or thing you should be, do or have does not make you wrong, it makes you YOU, it makes you unique.

Do not focus on others opinions. I know this is hard because we all want to be accepted, especially by those you love.  If you’re not feeling accepted within your circles, find new circles! Surround yourself with like-minded people. You are in control of your life; you deserve to be happy as your authentic self.

Vulnerability is one of our greatest growth tools; use it to your advantage.

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