Is Being Secure More Important Than Being Happy?


“We can’t be afraid of change. You may feel very secure in the pond that you are in, but if you never venture out of it, you will never know that there is such a thing as an ocean, a sea. Holding onto something that is good for you now, may be the very reason why you don’t have something better.” ~ C. JoyBell C.

Feeling secure and safe is something we naturally hang on to. Unfortunately we sometimes hang on too long because of the fear of change or the lack of courage to take that next step.

Hanging on to something that’s secure, that is good for you now; longing for what could be or wishing for something different, something more can harm your spirit. Do you go to a job you’re unhappy in every day just because it’s secure, it’s a paycheck or because it’s comfortable? Are you pursuing studies in something that doesn’t interest you because “that’s where the money is” or because someone else said that is a good path for you? Are you in a relationship with someone that is secure but doesn’t fulfill you? You don’t want to hurt the other person so you stay and hold yourself back from happiness?

Think about yourself as a fish in a pond, it’s a little cloudy but it’s safe. You swim around everyday seeing the same things, knowing everything about your little pond that there is to know. There may be a new plant that sprouts every now and then, or a few raindrops to shake things up. It’s rare that you find a new friend or have a scenery change. There is little chance of growth. Life is safe, but perhaps a little boring.

secureChange happens and you get out of that pond and enter into the ocean. You look around and can see for miles and miles.  This new amazing world provides you with new things to see every day, new people to meet and new opportunities to pursue every day. You can swim to new depths and farther than you’ve ever swam before. There are new options for nourishment of your mind, body and soul. You feel amazing; your life is now filled with things you couldn’t have even imagined.

Are you uncomfortably comfortable in your little pond, holding on to something that seems right for you now, but may be just the thing holding you back from the life you’re meant to have? Get real with yourself and choose to do what’s right for you. It may not happen overnight, but you can take the next step.


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