“Reflect upon your present blessings — of which every man has many — not on your past misfortunes, of which all men have some.” ~ Charles Dickens, A Christmas Carol and Other Christmas Writings
It’s a New Year and many of us spend time reflecting in order to set New Year’s resolutions or intentions. Some don’t reflect they just shut the door to the past and push forward without evaluating and incorporating their life lessons into their future.
You’ve heard the saying, “Everything happens for a reason” or “a failure is only a failure if you didn’t learn something” or any variation of such. The point is that there are lessons in everything we do. If you learn the lessons you can move forward in a much more advantageous way than if you ignore them and keep making the same mistakes.
I believe the five most powerful questions for you to ask yourself in order to incorporate your life lessons into your future planning are:
What Went Well
What were your blessing and successes in the last year? (or whatever time frame you’re looking at). What was easy for you, most fun? What gave you the biggest sense of accomplishment or satisfaction?
What Challenges Did I Have
Did you have anything you considered to be a misfortune? What happened that felt like a road block or quick sand? Did you feel overwhelmed by something? What have you done or are still doing that feel like chores and not something that you want to continue doing?
What Did I Learn From My Blessings and Success
How did you feel? What surprised you? Where there any life lessons or connections made from these successes? Where you outside of your comfort zone or your usual environment? Did that make a difference? Who were you with? What made these successes?
What Did I Learn From My Misfortunes and Challenges
How did you feel? What surprised you? Where there any life lessons or connections made from these Challenges? Where you outside of your comfort zone or your usual environment? Did that make a difference? Who were you with? Why are these things challenges?
How Can I Use These Lessons to My Advantage
What lessons did you learn from your blessings, successes, misfortunes and challenges? How do these lessons mean to your current situation? How can you use the lessons moving forward? Pick what worked and focus on using those lessons as you move forward.
It’s time you take charge of your life – live out loud and be who you want to be! You have the power to create your life so reflect and use the lessons to create an authentic life of happiness and success.