“Don’t blame anyone or anything for your situation or problems. When you do that, you are saying that you are powerless over your own life – which is utter crap. An empowering step to reclaiming your life is taking responsibility.” ~ Jillian Michaels
Do you play “The Blame Game”? It’s quite common when we’re kids or in a work or team environment. Let’s talk about when it’s just about you. If you are struggling with you weight, do you blame it on someone or something else? People who get fired for non-performance often blame others for the termination. If you’re struggling financially, are you blaming someone or something other than yourself for your “bad luck” or misfortune?
I see and hear this all the time. The reality is that tough situations happen to all of us. You can blame your childhood, the economy, your family or significant other or many other outside factors for your situation, but you are responsible for your own destiny.
What benefit is the blame game providing for you? It certainly isn’t making things better. Does blaming fix anything? No, the only way to fix it is to improve it or find a solution, which you do have control over.
Life is all about choices. You can choose to make better or different decisions in your life at any time. For example, if you have been terminated from your job chances are you did something to cause it. You may not want to admit it to yourself or anyone else, but take a good look and be honest with yourself – that is the only way for you to learn the lesson and not repeat the behavior. If you were consistently late, don’t blame the alarm clock, you are in control of your alarm clock. If you find yourself overweight, chances are you’re the one choosing what you eat and how much you exercise. If finances are an issue, look at your priorities – what are you spending your money on, do you still spend five dollars a day on fancy drinks? Are you working? Could you be working a different and/or additional job?, etc.
I’m definitely not suggesting that it is always easy to make changes, however it is true that you do have a choice and you are not always the victim. If you continue to blame everyone or everything else for your circumstances, you have given up control of you and your life. Don’t find fault, improve it.