“No matter what the recipe, any baker can do wonders in the kitchen with some good ingredients and an upbeat attitude!” ~ Buddy Valastro
It’s a cold winter day and you find yourself craving your mother’s homemade chocolate cake, so what do you do? You grab the recipe and make sure you have all of the ingredients listed. The smell of this cake baking in the oven will bring back memories of your childhood, of being in the kitchen baking with mom and maybe licking off the spoon and even though you recall that her cake was always a little dry you still want it to be “mom’s” exact recipe. You’re hoping that this time it’ll turn out a bit moister.
You begin measuring the ingredients, exactly as instructed by the recipe, adding them the same way you were taught by your mom and carefully mixing them in the bowl. You stick your finger in and take a lick, just to make sure it tastes just like you remember. Yep, that’s it, just like moms. You slowly pour the batter into the 9×13 cake pan, pop it into the oven to begin baking, set the timer and wait.
The much anticipated buzzer goes off and you hurry to get the cake out of the oven, let it cool and then cut yourself a nice big piece of that yummy chocolate cake. You grab a cold glass of milk and head over to your favorite chair, throw the blanket mom made over your lap and take big bite of the cake. You savor it for a moment, only to realize it’s just a dry as you remembered. It’s still pretty yummy and brings back a flood of good childhood memories, but you wonder to yourself, why is this cake always dry?
Guess what, same ingredients equal same cake. To change the cake, you have to change the recipe. You can add something, change something or delete something; the key is to make sure you have the right ingredients to make the cake what you want it to be. This is true of your life.
Think about baking a cake, what would happen if you went through your kitchen and only added the yummy ingredients? It wouldn’t taste very good. Without adding the oil for instance, the cake wouldn’t be right. If you didn’t add the chocolate, your cake may still be a cake, but it wouldn’t be what you wanted it to be. If you want to make a chocolate cake, it’s important to add some form of chocolate to the mix, however if you’re making a vanilla cake, even though chocolate is delicious, you do not want to add that to the mix this time. You must balance what goes into your cake.
The point is that you must do the good and the not so good to make change happen. It’s not always comfortable and may not feel good, but it’s necessary. Make a recipe for your change:
- What is imperative to making your change? Make sure to add those ingredients that maybe you’d rather leave out, but that are necessary to making the change.
- What is fun, exciting, “yummy”, but doesn’t fit in the mix right now? (It doesn’t mean you can’t indulge in those later)
- It takes time to make a change, so don’t expect it to happen overnight.
- Enjoy and celebrate your change.