Although Lucy was a comedian, she had it right when she said you have to love yourself first. This is sometimes a hard thing for people. We see pictures of “perfect” people in the media, we see others who have more than us or that we think have more than us. There are many reasons people never feel “good enough”.
It’s time you realize that you are perfectly imperfect. Is there even such a thing as “perfect”? Now that is another whole debate, however it takes all kinds to make the world go around. If we were all the same or all “perfect” I think life might be a little less colorful!
It’s important to treat yourself kindly and be proud of who you are. Accept yourself for who you are, what you are, where you are, etc. Sounds easy, right? Here are some pointers to giving yourself the love you deserve:
Forgive yourself. We all make mistakes or choices we wish we could change. Forgive yourself, learn from it and move forward.
Let go of the past. You cannot change what has happened, only what you think about or cling to. If you’re clinging to the past or always looking backwards, it’s going to be very difficult to move forward.
Don’t demean, ridicule or put yourself down. If you do, laugh at yourself and realize that you’re only making fun of yourself in a point in time. Then you can move past it and take positive steps forward. What you say to yourself often becomes reality.
Be your own best friend. Spend some quality time with yourself, learn to like who you are. Practice self care – take a hot bath, read a good book, get some exercise, eat well, etc. Taking good care of yourself is the ultimate self love and allows you to take care of others.
Take care of the open items that may be causing you pain. Have you lost contact with someone you love? Look them up. Do you have unresolved issues/concerns? Address them. If you need to say your sorry to someone, pick up the phone and do it.
There are many more ways to love yourself – do what works for you. Post positive messages, quotes, etc. . . .but whatever you do learn to love yourself and you’ll be amazed at how wonderful things can be!