Love Yourself First

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“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line.  You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.” ~ Lucille Ball

Although Lucy was a comedian, she had it right when she said you have to love yourself first.  This is sometimes a hard thing for people.  We see pictures of “perfect” people in the media, we see others who have more than us or that we think have more than us.  There are many reasons people never feel “good enough”.

It’s time you realize that you are perfectly imperfect.  Is there even such a thing as “perfect”?  Now that is another whole debate, however it takes all kinds to make the world go around.  If we were all the same or all “perfect” I think life might be a little less colorful!

It’s important to treat yourself kindly and be proud of who you are.  Accept yourself for who you are, what you are, where you are, etc.  Sounds easy, right?   Here are some pointers to giving yourself the love you deserve:

tiny heartLook in the mirror and tell yourself, “I love you” – do this every morning and every night.

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Forgive yourself.  We all make mistakes or choices we wish we could change.  Forgive yourself, learn from it and move forward.

tiny heartLet go of the past.  You cannot change what has happened, only what you think about or cling to.  If you’re clinging to the past or always looking backwards, it’s going to be very difficult to move forward.

tiny heartDon’t demean, ridicule or put yourself down.  If you do, laugh at yourself and realize that you’re only making fun of yourself in a point in time.  Then you can move past it and take positive steps forward.   What you say to yourself often becomes reality.

tiny heartBe your own best friend.  Spend some quality time with yourself, learn to like who you are.  Practice self care – take a hot bath, read a good book, get some exercise, eat well, etc.  Taking good care of yourself is the ultimate self love and allows you to take care of others.

tiny heartTake care of the open items that may be causing you pain.  Have you lost contact with someone you love? Look them up.  Do you have unresolved issues/concerns?  Address them.  If you need to say your sorry to someone, pick up the phone and do it.

tiny heartBe kind to others, smile at strangers, do a random act of kindness, call someone and tell them you appreciate them.  Being kind to others has a positive effect on you as well!

There are many more ways to love yourself – do what works for you.  Post positive messages, quotes, etc. . . .but whatever you do learn to love yourself and you’ll be amazed at how wonderful things can be!



  1. Nice post!

  2. Such a true article. I think a lot of times we forget to love ourselves because we are so busy trying to please others. You come first and foremost in your life. I definitely have to start doing this more. Thanks for sharing!

  3. Perfect tips. Love starts within. I agree!

  4. I really like this post. I love my imperfections. It took me a long time to just accept myself but once I did, I was much happier!

    • admin says:

      Jennifer that is lovely! Congratulations to you and thanks for being open to sharing that!

  5. Love this article, so true. I do the random acts of kindness and always smile but we always need to take time for ourselves and love ourselves before others can love us:)

    • admin says:

      I’m so glad to hear you do random acts of kindness! Isn’t that a great feeling?? Now remember to take time for yourself 😉

  6. Hi Shari,

    You’ve shared some awesome tips. I agree with you. You have to start within first and then you can do with others like you have done for yourself. Great post!

  7. Hi Shari,

    Great tips here about loving yourself first, it is so important!! Thank you for sharing your insights!!

  8. Great post. It’s sad how this is a difficult thing for so many people to do — to love themselves. I used to be one of them. You said, “Don’t demean, ridicule, or put yourself down.” I suffer from a lifetime of depression, and that is one of the hardest things to overcome. I would never talk to another person like I have talked to myself. Ugh! Thanks a lot for your insight. You’re awesome.

    • Jeanne – thanks for you kind words. Unfortunately the majority of people talk to themselves worse than they would talk to a friend. It is so important to love and cherish yourself! Look at all the wonderful things you’ve done in your life, listen to those people that tell you how wonderful you are and that are there for you through anything. You’re truly remarkable!

  9. There’s a saying, “There’s truth in jest.” In the case of Lucille Ball, she delivers a big truth with her humor – “Love yourself!” Thanks for the great tips.

    • admin says:

      I love humor Barbara – thanks for sharing that saying. Lucy was a one-of-a-kind lady!

  10. What a great article! I am currently working on my negative self talk. Until it was pointed out to me, I didn’t even know I was doing it. I am definitely going to start using your tips! Thanks!

    • admin says:

      Congratulations Sue! Let me know how it goes for you. I’m here if you need additional encouragement and support!

  11. It is a very hard thing to do, because we are used to loving other before ourselves.. But there comes a point in time, when we need to just love ourselves for who and what we are..

  12. Jeff Brand says:

    What a great uplifting post. Things we need to hear from others especially about forgiving ourselves.

  13. Jim Striegel says:

    Very true words here. We are all so hard on ourselves. Great topic!

    • admin says:

      Thanks Jim! Yes – we all need to be less hard on ourselves – be your own best friend.

  14. Stephanie Clopton says:

    I love this and so needed to hear these things from an outsider.

  15. Great post! Loving yourself is the beginning… of everything!

  16. Great post! Self care is so important. We have to love ourselves before we can really love others

  17. I tell my little cousins this all the time. How can you expect people to respect you and love you if you do not respect yourself and love yourself first? Great post here, I love it!

  18. It can be hard to love yourself. I struggled that for a long time until I just faced facts that I am not perfect. I will never be perfect. I am fine with that now and I love myself!

  19. Brilliant post and something I needed reminding of right now. Thank you so much x

    • admin says:

      Thank you Denise – Glad I was able to provide you something that hit home. 🙂

  20. As Brene Brown says, we cannot give to anyone else what we don’t have ourselves. Self love is essential – thank you for such a great reminder.

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