“I don’t trust people who don’t love themselves and tell me, ‘I love you.’ … There is an African saying which is: Be careful when a naked person offers you a shirt.” ~ Maya Angelou
Oh the beloved Maya – she was an amazing woman who made us think! Do you love you, trust you?
We’ve been talking about trust and trusting ourselves, now it’s time to look at loving ourselves. Loving yourself will lead to trusting yourself which then will lead to trusting & earning trust from others.
Do you love YOU? I mean can you look in the mirror and say I love you to yourself and mean it or do you look in the mirror and tell yourself you’re not good enough? Do you say things like you’re too fat, too skinny, too short, you don’t like your hair, your nose, etc. . .?? Do you tell yourself you’re not smart enough, strong enough or other derogatory things?
Don’t be ashamed or embarrassed, we have all done this on occasion. Remember that it should be the exception. If you have a habit of “beating yourself up” then you must change it! Say I love you and trust you to yourself every day!
Maya alludes to the fact that we must love ourselves before we can truly love another. If you are not happy, healthy & feeling good about yourself, it is much harder to give to others.
- What do I need to be more accepting, more at peace or more loving of myself?
- Is there something or someone I need to forgive to move on? How will I do that?
- If I could change one thing in my life to make me happier, what would that be?
- What do I value about myself?
- What do I need most (for me!) right now?
Give them some serious, honest thought – answering these questions truthfully is the first step in being honest with yourself and moving into a loving relationship with yourself.
All relationship start with the relationship you have with yourself, so make it a good one! Love YOU, Trust YOU!