“For what it’s worth; it’s never too late or, in my case, too early to be whoever you want to be. There’s no time limit, stop whenever you want. You can change or stay the same, there are no rules to this thing. We can make the best or the worst of it. I hope you make the best of it. And I hope you see things that startle you. I hope you feel things you never felt before. I hope you meet people with a different point of view. I hope you live a life you’re proud of. If you find that you’re not, I hope you have the courage to start all over again.” ~ Eric Roth, The Curious Case of Benjamin Button screenplay
Wow, that’s a lot to take in, but so true! The main points are that your life is what you make it and it’s never too late to be YOU! I especially like the last line. . .”If you find that you’re not, I hope you have the courage to start all over again.” Find the courage to be happy!
I’ve had many people in my life that have had addictions and have found the courage to start over and forgo whatever their addiction was. Some when they were young and some at an older age. Now imagine the change they faced, losing some of those that they thought were their friends, giving up something in life that brought them pleasure and or made life bearable. Once they found the courage and made the commitment to start over, they had to face their new challenges without the mood altering substances, chemicals or behaviors. Those that have truly started over are grateful for their new lives and the chance to start over.
I’ve had a life rich in lessons and I’ve been judged by many for my decisions because I’ve had the courage to try to make life better for myself and those in my life. I’ve been married/divorced twice and although I won’t go into a lot of detail here, I will say that although they were entirely different circumstances, the fact was that the relationships were not fulfilling to either party for various reasons that others didn’t necessarily understand. I was also in a relationship that was very abusive, mentally and physically. In a rage of anger and drunkenness I was beaten the night my father passed away and I was certain I would be joining him. Much to my surprise I woke up the next day, quite sore and bruised, but I was able to get out of the house without waking the monster. There are always things people don’t see and therefore it’s easy to judge someone, so when these relationships were ended there was a lot of fall out, but I’ve moved on to happier things. I’m making the best of it, I’m feeling things I’ve never felt before, I’m living as my true self and I wasn’t afraid to start over, in my 20’s, my 30’s or my 40’s.
I’ve written about other changes I’ve made in my life in other blogs and if you’ve attended any of my seminars, workshops or coaching you’ve heard many stories of change, courage and overcoming obstacles. Whether it’s a relationship, a job, where you live, what you look like, or anything else, you have the choice to make the best of it.
Don’t live with regrets, remember there is no time limit, you can make the choice and find the courage to change your circumstances whenever you’re ready!