Is Your Indecision Due to Fear?


“A real decision is measured by the fact that you’ve taken a new action. If there’s no action, you haven’t truly decided.” ~ Tony Robbins

We all have times when we find it hard to make a decision. Why is it that some people make decisions faster than others?

Some people get stuck in analysis paralysis and can’t make a decision until they have every fact and some make decisions on-the-spot or after receiving just a few key pieces of information.

If you’re struggling to make a decision, more often than not, it is a fear based reason holding you back. You need to ask yourself what you fear about that particular decision.

  • Are you afraid to make the wrong decision? What are the consequences?
  • Are you afraid to “own” your decision?
  • Is there conflict surrounding the decision, so your hoping someone else will make it for you?

Once you know the fear you can deal with it head on.  A few signs/symptoms to be aware of:

  • When you’re stuck between two difficult choices it may just be that you don’t want to deal with the backlash – it is your responsibility to make a decision!
  • If you believe you need more time to gather more information – make sure that is really the case and you’re not just using it as a delay tactic because you’re afraid to own the decision.

Bad decisions are usually fear based, not common sense based. We tend to make things harder than they need to be!

I’ve listed 5 ways to conquer your indecisiveness below. If you want to keep your life/career moving in a forward direction, be seen as a leader and have less stress around decision making remember these tips:

  1. Practice on the small things. The more you practice making decisions the better you’ll feel about it!
  2. Figure out the fear, face it and forget about it.
  3. Forget about always appearing smart or being right.
  4. Learn to trust yourself or trust your gut. Sometimes you don’t need ALL the data you instinctively know what to do.
  5. Ask yourself how your decision will affect things 10 days, 10 months, 10 years from now. You might find out it doesn’t matter as much as you think it does right now, in the moment.

Remember that most decisions can be reversed, changed or “tweaked” if needed. Making a decision and moving forward is better than staying stuck by not doing anything.

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