Why is it so hard to be honest and transparent in our everyday lives? Are you hiding something, are you afraid you might not “fit in”? There are many reasons we struggle to be authentic. Rather than focus of the reasons not to be authentic (honest/transparent), let’s look at the reasons to be.
Most of us have people in our lives that we can talk to about anything; it might be a family member, a friend, a coach or mentor, a teacher, etc. These are the people we turn to when we need someone to talk to that we can trust, where we can do/say whatever we need or want to. We turn to these people in good times – you share your promotions, successes, feelings and anything good going on in your life. We also turn to these people in the not so good times – break ups, frustrations, sadness, etc. These are the people we trust and are willing to be vulnerable with! Think about why you can be yourself with these people, what made you open up and be honest and transparent with them.
When you’re honest and transparent you’re being your authentic self. Those that know you as your true self and accept you for who you are, are your true friends. You feel better when you can be yourself. Hiding or being something your not is stressful on your body and can affect your health. When you can be honest and transparent in your everyday life you’ll feel confident and be happy.
I am reminded everyday how lucky I am to be able to be myself. I have so many people in my life that accept me for who I am and those are the people I spend my time with. These people don’t care if I’m happy or sad, fat or skinny, dressed up or not, divorced or married, in a relationship or single, etc. Of course they care about my well being and want what’s best for me, but what I’m getting at is that I don’t have to act or look a certain way, I don’t have to pretend around them. It’s a lot of work to be with people who only like you because of who they think you are or who you’ve allowed them to think you are. Do yourself a favor and be honest and transparent.
You must first start with being honest and transparent with yourself! If you don’t have anyone you can be honest and transparent with, start by writing in a journal and really open up to yourself. If you have a secret you’ve been keeping, take baby steps, find just one person you can talk to after you’re comfortable with yourself.
Luckily I’ve found that being true to myself has allowed me to keep my real friends and my family close to me and I get to be the real me. I don’ t feel the need to be anything or anyone else. I’ve been through many phases of opening up and being honest. If you need help opening up to yourself, contact me, I can help. However you get there, you’ll be amazed at how wonderful life can be!