Go With the Flow

“Life isgo with the flow a series of natural and spontaneous changes.  Don’t resist them; that only creates sorrow.  Let reality be reality.  Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.” ~ Lao Tzu.

Although change can be difficult for us at times, it is important to recognize that change is going to continue throughout our lives.  If you can learn to let things flow rather than resist or fight changes, you will be more at peace.

If you’re having a hard time accepting or dealing with a change, do your best to step back and take an honest look at what is changing and why.  I am a firm believer in that everything happens for a reason, but so often we don’t get to know or understand the reason, especially at the time the change is happening.

There is a process for change that we all go through whether a change is “good”, “bad”, initiated by us, happening to us, etc.  The stages are: Loss – Doubt/Denial – Discovery – Acceptance.

There is a period of loss, even when a change is “good” or something we want, because we are losing something that we’ve known.  Then comes the doubt or denial, this is where you find yourself thinking or saying things like; why is this happening, this will never work , I’m not cut out for this, etc.   Once you move past that state you begin to discover the new ways of whatever your change is and then it becomes your new way of being.

Sounds simple, right? It can be easier than you think if you manage your thoughts to help you through.  Knowing that the feelings you’re feeling are natural will help you deal with change.  We go through these stages at different paces for different changes.  As you’re aware of what you’re feeling you can evaluate where you are in the process and you’ll be able to move forward.

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