Embarrassing Moments Build Character

embarrassing moments“But I learned that there’s a certain character that can be built from embarrassing yourself endlessly. If you can sit happy with embarrassment, there’s not much else that can really get to ya.” ~ Christian Bale on embarrassing moments

What do you do when you have an embarrassing moment? Do you laugh at yourself or cringe and want to run and hide?

We’ve all had embarrassing moments and I would venture to say if you haven’t you’re not living fully! These are a part of life and the more you can learn to laugh at them the easier life will be.  Sometimes it’s not as easy as others, but trust me, the way you deal with embarrassing moments says a lot about you and can either improve or hurt your relationship with others.

Think about a time when someone around you did or said something embarrassing. Was it someone you could laugh with? If they laughed at themselves you probably laughed right along with them and you have a good memory of the situation regardless of the outcome, right?  If it was someone who didn’t laugh or wouldn’t admit that they said anything wrong the situation probably isn’t one you look upon with smiles! This behavior can create a wedge between people; you don’t want to say anything to set the person off so it creates a very uncomfortable situation.

embarrassing momentsA few years ago researchers at U.C.Berkeley did a study which suggests that the display of (and acceptance of) embarrassment may increase others’ perceptions of you as a trustworthy individual.

When participants watched videos of people describing their embarrassing moments, they reported that they felt those individuals were more generous and trustworthy than the individuals that pretended they weren’t embarrassed or downplayed the situation.

If you’re open and accepting of your embarrassing moments – even laughing at yourself you show vulnerability which builds trust.

If you laugh and share the experience with people it creates a “bond” or a memory that you will share and laugh at for years to come.

It also shows that you are a real person, with real expectations when you can laugh at yourself and your blunders in life.

As I was writing this, one of my friends posted an embarrassing moment she just had. . .she sent a text to her step-son that said “Hey big guy, can you. . . .” she got a reply, but only to find out she had just texted an old boss with the same name as her son. . . .She laughed all day and so did the rest of us!

I could tell you a million embarrassing stories from my life, but one of my favorites is when I was in my early 20’s I was dressed in a beautiful embarrassing momentnavy blue suit and high heels. I went into my new boss’s office, he was on the phone but motioned for me to come and have a chair. I sat down, but missed the chair entirely and landed on the floor. I was laughing (quietly since he was on the phone) and he stood up and looked over his desk, saw I was laughing so hard I was crying and as gracefully as possible crawling out the door – he broke into laughter and had to get off the phone. We worked together for many years and always laughed at that story.

Comment below with some of your embarrassing moments -let’s have some fun!

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