Don’t Settle!

authentic, true self


[styled_box]”Don’t settle for a relationship that won’t let you be yourself.” ~ Oprah Winfrey[/styled_box]


Why is it that we often stay in relationships that are no longer good for us, or maybe never were?  It’s seems so much easier to stay with the status quo than to disrupt things and do what’s right for ourselves.  Rather than be our authentic true self, we put on a mask and become whatever we need to be to “survive” in the current relationship.

Let me be clear that when I reference relationships, I’m not only talking about romantic relationships.  Yes, those definitely play a major role in our lives, however there are many other relationships to consider.

What about your job, or even your career choice?  Do you hate going to work every day because you have a boss or co-workers you don’t get along with, or you just don’t care for the work that you do?  Maybe it’s time to evaluate that relationship.  So many people complain about their job day in and day out, but they don’t do anything about it.  I have been that person before.  There was a time when I loved what I did, however the place I worked was rather toxic.  I knew it was bringing me down and affecting other areas of my life, however it still took me months to make the decision to find something else.  Once I moved on, every area of my life improved.

What about your relationships with your friends.  Do you have friends that drain your energy?  Maybe you need to limit your time with these people or have a heart-to-heart conversation with them.  Explain that their negative behavior (or whatever the concern is) is impacting you and if it doesn’t change you’ll have to distance yourself.

How is your relationship with yourself?  It’s time to start taking care of yourself!  You should talk to yourself as well as or better than you talk to others.  Be your own best friend.  It’s virtually impossible to have great relationships with others if you don’t like and take care of yourself first!

Evaluate your relationships and make the choice to engage in healthy relationships that allow you to be your authentic true self! Believe in yourself, don’t settle for anything but the best and live an authentic life of happiness and success.

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