“The test of success is not what you do when you are on top. Success is how high you bounce when you hit bottom.” ~ George S. Patton
When you have experiences in life that bring you down how do you react? Do you crash and spend hours or days trying to pick up the pieces or do you feel the impact of the situation, refocus your energy and bounce back?
For example let’s say you applied for and landed an interview for your dream job. You pick out your best suit, make sure you look impeccable and show up for your interview feeling invincible. You feel a real connection with the interviewers, you have all the right answers and you feel like you nailed the interview. You leave feeling excited and confident you’ll get the offer.
A few days later the phone rings, you quickly check the caller ID and reassure yourself it’s your new place of employment calling. You eagerly answer while trying to sound nonchalant. It’s the Human Resources Manager calling to inform you that they have chosen another candidate. He wishes you the best of luck in your search and ends the call. What do you do now?
Do you stand there holding the phone in disbelief or drop the phone and burst into tears? Does this news cripple you and put you in a state of mind that won’t allow you to do or focus on anything else so you drop into the recliner and sulk for the next several days. If this is your reaction, you have crashed and feel like you’re broken. This reaction usually sends people into a tailspin. It may take you a while to pick up the pieces, refocus and go after what you want.
On the other hand, if you look at the phone in disbelief and shake your head, but then choose to refocus on plan B you’re bouncing. To bounce is to feel the impact and then move on. It’s ok to be bewildered, confused, and angry or any of the other emotions that hit you in this scenario as long as you’re not held prisoner to them. Successful people build resilience and learn to bounce.
Five ways to build your resilience:
- Build relationships. Network with others so you have a support system and a network that can help navigate you through these rough times. Accept help and support from those you trust.
- Set your vision and goals so you can focus on what is important to you.
- Take care of yourself. Pay attention to your needs, taking care of yourself nourishes your body and mind so they are ready to take on these situations.
- Refrain from seeing problems as undefeatable. Unless it’s life or death it can be dealt with. There are always choices and options, find them.
- Keep things in perspective. Look at things with a long-term perspective and avoid blowing them out of proportion.
Always remember success isn’t about how far you fall, it’s about how high you bounce.